Lifestyle & Etiquette
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| No means NO. Above all don't be pushy. Remember that freedom of choice is every individual's right in swinging and respecting that right is only common courtesy. Learn how to handle a "No", graciously. If you are interested in swinging with someone, let them know in an inviting way. Everyone has the right to say "NO" at all times, to anyone, without explanation. Do not ever forget that and DON'T ask why, you may not want to know! |
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| Be friendly and courteous. Respect all others at all times. |
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| ILLEGAL SUBSTANCES, INCLUDING MARIJUANA, ARE PROHIBITED at all responsible swing clubs and private parties. Swinging is its own pleasure, don't dilute it and don't subject yourself and others to legal problems. Going in and out of the party or dance to your car will be suspect. Don't do it. |
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| ARRIVE ON TIME. It isn't fashionable to arrive late to a swing party. |
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| ARRIVE AS A COUPLE AND LEAVE AS A COUPLE WHEN ATTENDING A SWING DANCE OR PARTY. It is frowned upon by most hosts and other swingers when a partner, usually the woman, departs, leaving her mate at the party as a single. |
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| ATTRACTIVE BUT CASUAL PARTY CLOTHES are usually best. If you're attending an on-premise party or a L'Sota Dance Blast, take a robe, negligee or other slip-on. You may find it more comfortable as the evening continues. At L'Sota it's a good idea to wear a robe in the Hospitality Suites. If you are attending a dance then dress according to the theme of the party or in clean clothing. You don't need to wear suits or fancy dresses but also don't wear dirty and torn clothing. What you wear will either help attract others to you or make them steer clear of you. Keep money, jewelry, and other valuables at a minimum. If they are lost, it's a problem for you, and an embarrassment to your hosts. |
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| CLEANLINESS AND GOOD GROOMING is essential for swinging participants. Be aware of your body and take care of it. Be especially aware of any repugnant body odor you may develop due to the rather physical nature of these activities. Even a kiss can be repulsive if delivered on a breath heavy with the taste of cigarettes or liquor. Always keep your "privates" or for some your "publics" clean and fresh! |
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| A GOOD MENTAL ATTITUDE AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH will make you popular in the swinging community. No one appreciates the negative person with nothing good to say about the party, other persons, or swinging. The man or woman with the smile, ready laugh and obvious interest in others is the person others like to be around. |
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| DON'T TAKE A "TICKET" TO A SWING PARTY. A ticket is someone who has no intention of swinging but is willing to go along to get someone else in. No one must swing at a party, of course, but if one person swings, it is expected that the other is willing and free to do the same. |
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| DON'T TAKE SOMEONE TO A SWING PARTY WHO IS NOT FULLY INFORMED as to the nature of the party and their expected behavior. |
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| DON'T DISTURB THE SWINGING ENJOYMENT OF OTHERS in a bedroom or other swing area with loud or prolonged talking or laughing. |
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| THE GROUP ROOM IS FOR GROUP SWINGING. If you want privacy, don't go to the group room. If you take your partner or any other person to the group room to swing, you can expect others to ask to join you and your partner. (The right of refusal always applies, of course. Swinging in the group room doesn't automatically give others the right to join you). |
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| CLUB SWING PARTIES HAVE PARTY DUES OR DONATIONS. It is your responsibility to present it upon being checked in for a party. Don't make the hosts remind you. |
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| IF A PARTY IS BYOB (BRING YOUR OWN BOTTLE), ONLY DRINK WHAT YOU BRING. Never help yourself to what others have brought without their permission. This is another of the much violated rules of swinging etiquette, and one that causes anger among the party guests. Always bring your own mixes or ask if mixes will be available. |
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| TELL THE HOSTS if another guest causes a problem, won't take "no" for an answer, or is objectionable in any real way. They sincerely want to know so they can correct the problem. Keeping problems and bad feelings to yourself only contributes tension to the situation. |
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| IF YOU LIKE A CLUB OR PARTY, SAY SO. IF IT JUST ISN'T YOUR THING, LEAVE. To speak despairingly of a party to the other guests is simply poor manners. |